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Falling into the "Super Mom trap"

Super Mom VS. A Super Mom
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Super Mom- you know the type. She’s in the PTA. She makes meals from scratch. She sews her kids clothing. She uses cloth diapers. She has fresh baked cookies waiting when they arrive home from school. Oops, wait- she drives them to and from school, they don’t ride the bus. She has a spotless home. Her marriage is one others envy. She is involved in church leadership. She always looks clean and put together. She is fashionable. Her home is something out of a Martha Stewart magazine. She has baby books filled out in great detail for each child. Their artwork is ALL saved and stored properly. She never wears glasses, she always has time for contacts. When you ask for help she is the first one to volunteer. She runs the bake sale. She has a garage sale every year. Her SUV is always clean and smells wonderful. She writes a blog for her family, for fun, for her crafts, and for her cooking endeavors. She’s perfect!
A super mom- YOU, ME, HER! Reality of what a mom is. We signed up for the PTA…whether we attend is another story. We make some meals from scratch. Our sewing machines collect dust in the basement. We considered cloth diapering, but realized it was so much easier to just toss the dirty one. Fresh baked cookies come from a pre-made mix. We drive our kids to school…on the days they miss the bus because we overslept. Our homes ARE spotless, but in areas where we take photos O-N-L-Y! Our marriages are good, they continue to grow. And so on and so on….
The point? The point is this: I’d rather be A super mom than SUPER mom! Why? Because by being Super Mom’s we put a false facade out there of who we really are. The most important thing to me is to be able to look back and remember the time I spent with my kids, the memories I made, the laughter…rather than the beautiful outfit I sewed, craft I made or what have you. Don’t get me wrong, I love to sew, craft, bake, cook and quite honestly clean….but the reality is that those things get done AFTER, after I do the important things- love on my kids.
The Reality? The reality is that my house is often a disaster, shoot I can’t keep up sometimes. Sometimes my kids get frozen meals for dinner, and that’s OK. My kids get to do crafty fun projects with me, but honestly I am a total control freak and the disaster of my home creates such anxiety in me that the thought of doing something to ADD to it is often too much.
The Truth? The truth is that I am laying all out on the line here. I am NOT Super Mom…I am a super mom! I wouldn’t want it any other way! I’m not bragging, honestly I’m not. Being a super mom is my #1 goal in life, screw the Super Mom!

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  1. I just wanted to say that the post on being A Supermom as opposed to being THE Supermom really resonated with me. None of us are perfect, we are all just doing the best we can for our families. Would I love to have it ALL together ALL the time? Absolutely, but I know for that to happen I would probably have to have Martha Stewart’s full time staff at my disposal to finish all my started projects. Kids are priority one. Do my kids watch a little TV so I can get dinner on the table? Yes. Do I forget to fill out ANOTHER form for the PTA fundraiser? Sometimes. Fact of the matter is, we all have different priorities when it comes to our families and our kids. So if that means I have sticky floors for a couple of days so that I can spend some time baking cookies, playing soccer or doing play doh with my kids than so be it.

    Thanks for sharing and “keeping it real”

    Erin {Home Everyday}
    http://www.home-everyday.com

  2. Amen sister! Cheers to super moms.

  3. So true! We each need to determine what is important to us as a mom (and as a woman). For me, if our clothes our clean that is a success, even if they are never folded and put away. Thanks for writing about this so nicely!

    • Stacy- So true!!! Clean clothes=a win! I’m happy you enjoyed this post. I just felt so strongly that in the world of Faceboo, Pinterest and Blogging we sometimes put added presure on each other and I wanted to be REAL!

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